About Troy

The short version: I enjoy people, problem solving and sports.

The not so short version: I grew up on the island of Trinidad and Tobago and moved to the United States for university where I received a Bachelor’s, followed by a Master’s Degree in Business Administration and then a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy.

I represented Trinidad and Tobago playing tennis all over the world, and then settled into my profession as a therapist. From there I went on to oversee the running of integrated behavioural and health clinics, shelters, residential treatment centres, behavioural health after school programs and foster care programs. Overall, I have 15 years of experience in the mental health field, and through it all, relationships always remained my passion.

Whether it was the hundreds and hundreds of couples and families I worked with during family therapy, the staff I supervised, or anyone in general, relationships on all levels have always fascinated me. Why do some people respond one way while others respond a totally different way to the same situation? Why do people interpret messages or situations in one way rather than another? Why do positive relationships lift us to the highest of heights, while problems in a relationship can bring us to the lowest point we have ever encountered?

Everything with relationships fascinates me. In my line of work as a supervisor, I could identify that when there were relationship issues within the team, it affected everyone’s ability to be effective at their job. What I also realised was that if someone’s relationship at home was struggling, this affected them even more at work. It is easy to say, “leave your personal issues at home,” but this is just not how it works.
I know what it is like to be in a relationship thinking you are prepared, know what to do, only to look back upon that relationship and realise all the mistakes you had made. I know what it is like to have this “revelation” and then go into another relationship and have a different set of mistakes repeat itself because I did not truly understand the steps necessary to have a successful relationship.  I did not know what worked and what did not work, all my behaviours were essentially an experiment while I thought they were proven facts.

I also understand what it is like to be on the other side of that. Being able to apply what I have learned in my marriage is priceless. Understanding the different stages of relationships, from dating, to marriage, to the introduction of kids allowed me to adapt to each phase as each one brings about its own set of challenges.

I believe that without the proper preparation for your relationship, you are gambling with your future, your partner’s future, and the future of your children. I believe that waiting until problems arise in your relationship is not the ideal time to learn about how to have a successful relationship. Why wait for an issue to develop to learn how to fix it?

With that said, I believe there is no wrong time to start learning about how to be successful at relationships. The most important thing is that if you are going to be in a relationship, you dedicate the time and resources to make that relationship successful.

I believe that no one wins in settling for a relationship that is less than the one you are capable of and deserve.

I believe that being in a happy, successful, enjoyable relationship can change your life.

I believe that eating a Trinidadian Bake & Shark can be life changing as well… but I digress.

If you are in a relationship and want to give it the best chance of succeeding or are single and want to experience a healthy relationship, I want to help you achieve this. Sign up for a free consultation and let us explore if the services at UN•THINK are right for you.

If nothing else, go have a Bake & Shark… you will thank me later!

Troy Stone - Family Therapy

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